What does this really mean? As we take these vows do we truly know the depth of the meaning of the phrase, “in sickness and in health?” I can tell you in hind sight I never understood it. I had an idea of it because I grew up with parents that vowed this, and stuck to it until the day my mom passed away from terminal brain cancer. But did I personally understand what that phrase meant? No, I did not.
I can say I know it now. I dare say that I am glad that when we wed nearly 11 years ago I did not fully understand what that phrase could mean. Why? Well, maybe that is a little blessing because if we would know what trials we would face in the future or what pain was ahead, it would be very difficult to vow these very significant words.
Days like today, I can struggle with these words. I can try to tell myself that at 35 years old I should not have to tolerate my husband yelling at me because he is getting angry because he can no longer do a simple task of just pulling weeds from flower bed without frustration. In today’s society I feel as though I could legitimately walk away and never look back all while feeling justified in doing such. Especially when I ponder the future; the future that very likely will be void of emotions. Are you kidding me? I didn’t sign up for that. There was no clause that said, “If I ever become mentally incapable of emotional connections you must stay married to me and never feel the intimacy of my love again.” Isn’t that the way contracts often are? That super fine print that gives all the disclaimers about a medication or gimmick.
Now face to face with that so-called “fine print” is when our love is truly tested in any relationship. I do not think one of us start a relationship thinking that it will NOT last through the test of time. I will be honest, there have been times when I think that we cannot make it through, but then I look beyond myself. I look above; I look at how the Lord has carried me through to this year. It is only by HIS love for me that I am able to press on and to love my husband more today because I did make that vow that I would be his bride until the day death parts us regardless of what may come.